Tuesday, 27 March 2012

What I like the most/least,useful and why?

I was not much time in this class but I'm going to write some things that I improved .As always I had a few difficulties with my writing,this class was the most useful class for me and I improved a lot.Up to some point I'm quite happy with my listening as well because I had already proven that,with my reading I'm not quite happy but always depencce how concentrated you are while you read.
However I liked that I meet many new people from all over the world and this was my excelent experience.
At the end I'm realy happy that I finished and now finaly I'll take a rest.:)

Monday, 19 March 2012

Natasha-How I met my ex boyfriend

My bloc will introduce how I met my ex boyfriend.
Everything happened when I was 16 years old.I was a little bit drunk but,  I remember the place where I met him very well,this place was the most famous night club in my city.We were drinking and dancing,but just like friends,when suddenly he made the first step.I was so confused I haven't got an idea what will happen after.It was a bit shame at that time to have a  boyfriend or to kiss somebody at night clubs,but yes I kissed him   as the majority of the female  do nowadays male population of the world.
I need to mention that this was bad relationship it was obvious that because we were jealously kids.during the relationship I felt really good like the whole world is mine but,after everything had changed.He was going out with friends,and I was doing the same,in one word I did not believe him in nothing.I felt so horrible when one day my best friend said me:-''I saw your boyfriend with one chick''.In that moment I felt so horrible like the space fell on me.I called him and we brake up.But I'm that kind of person when I brake up with someone that's it I couldn't give him another chance that was the end.
All in all this was not the end of our friendship, we are still friends,and this is better....:)

Shan

Well...I haven't had any 'official boyfriend' yet, but I can tell you something about an unofficial boyfriend who I met when I was three years old. I don't have much memory of my first love as I was in kindergarten then. However, as my mum always makes jokes about me and my 'litttle boyfriend', I didn't forget it.

He was one of my best friends. He was the one who always protect me and take care of me as he is older than me. I remember that he was fat and had a soft stomach which I sometimes lied on. He was a nice guy and we had a good time together. My mother and his mother were good friends and we often went out together on weekends. We spent a lot of time together. I don't know when we started to have feeling for each other because we like each other all the time. It's like from the beginning we were supposed to be together, we were so close.

 There was one day that I went out to a resteraunt with my family. The resteraunt happened to be holding a wedding. I turned to my mom and said,' Mom, he ask me to marry him when we grow up.' My mom thought it was so funny that she laughed at it but I can't understand why she was laughing. We loved each other and people who love each other suppose to get married.

It's such a pity that after we left the kindergarten we didn't keep in touch. And it's such a coincedence that he was a friend of my high school's best friend. They studied in the same primary school. She wanted to arrange us to meet but I was going to Australia and he was about to study abroad too! I have to say that the world is so small and mysterious. We haven't met for a long time and we are doing similar things.

how I met my highschool girlfriend

Many years ago I got an invitation from one of my friends to his parent`s house to chat with friends.

I didn`t know that this guy who was the same old as me has a younger sister. That was a very good surprise, wich isn`t happens everyday with you, when after knocking on the door the guy wasn`t who opened the door but his sister. She asked me that she could help me something, and I answered that I came to her brother.

But after one month the things were comlpletly changed. When I went to this house I didn`t already do it for having good conversation with friends but for meeting with the girl who has green eyes and red hair and who I met on the door at the first time.

Walter

I met my girlfriend when i was a high school student.

It happened in a really hot summer of August 2010.That day was a enrolling day of school and as usual,we would be separated to different classes when we were in Grade 2.I was so late that i hardly find the seat in my new class and ater looking around i finally found a seat which was behind a girl.

I was so unusual that day.In general,I was not a sociable person and not good at communicating with people but to my surprised ,i had a impulsion to talk with the girl and i hardly controlled my myself.That was so strange and never happen to me.I was wondering why and after a while I talked with her without hesitation.I asked her name and she turned to me and answered with a smile face,it was so sweet and i could even hear my heartbeat was accelerated in the unbelievable speed.I was kind of know that maybe i love this girl.She told me her name was HUANG HUANG .Autually i knew what did the name mean but i teased her and called  her "yellow yellow".It was Chinese words.Now when i was recalling that moment i knew she might think how stupid this guy was.-.-!!

Emma

I met my ex boyfriend last summer , in my city. It was the end of the afternoon, and I was walking with my bestfriend in a very quiet and for me the most beautiful place of my city. It was around the oldest monument my city has, a muraille from the middle ages my city conserves surronded by the fields. We were sitting against the wall in front of those fields and we usually see nobody there, but a guy just passed in front of us and I found that he has something very special, I was sure to have seen him somewhere else before but impossible to remember at this time. He saw that I was smoking and come to us, to finally ask me if I had a lighter, and of course I had. (smoking as his advantages mouahaha )  He smiled at me and finally end up to sit with us and talk for an hour. I discovered that he saw each other in a friend party two months ago and that i've already noticed him at this time. We had so much in commun and we talked and laught so much that i didn't see the night coming. My friend felt probably alone because we were mainly talking to each other, for me it was love at first sight :) It was a very simple meeting but at the end it shared the best moments of my life with Alex.

Nora

It was 4 years ago as i met a boy, who was into my little sister. Because she wasn't interested in him he was really upset. So he started to talk to me about her and his problems with the whole situation. This was the moment when we became friends.

We talked to each other for hours and met almost every day going out with friends or just sitting together. So we knew each other better and better every day. After weeks he realized that there was no chance to start a relationship to my sister and he started thinking about us being in a relationship.

When he decided to told me about his thoughts i was very confused because I never thought about us in this way and I was sure that you can't change your mind that easily. But after a few more weeks I finally said to him that we could try it.

It was only a short relationship, but it was a very nice time. Until now we are still good friends who are talking about everything.
All begann when I was about 5 years old. My parents who were constantly working during the weekdays couldn't take care of me. So they couldn't prepare my breakfast, drive me and pick me up when I begann school or stay with me the wenesday afternoon. Indeed I was spending the most of my time in my nanny's home which is as well the home where my sister grew up.
One thing that you have to know, it s that my nanny is the best, I wasn't missing my parents at all and I spent wonderful days with her and this for about 6 years

Anyway, I wasn't the only child that my nanny was taking care of.
For my part, I was always with the same boy who was as well in my school.
He was my favourite gamemate, and was doing absolutely all that I wanted.
We were always together, watching Sponge Bob or Power Randgers, sharing Kinder Surprise, traumatizing the cat of the neighbour, playing in the garden....
So, naturally we were madly in love and even organize a fake wedding with dress, fancy suit and photos as proofs.

Then, we grew up, entered in secondary school and begann to be less close.
We didn't need any more a nanny and as consequences, we saw each other less often.
Years after years, we saw each other less and less and it's now over one year that I didn't see him.
I'm always going to keep greats souvenirs of this time which was the most significant of my childhood.

Diego

Everything started when I was in my high school, when i was 15 or 16 years old. I was with my friends in Spanish class when i saw something written with blue ink down on my table. It was just an email but it caught my attention and i copy it in a piece of paper.

As soon as i arrived home, i added this person to my msn who casually was a girl. I was very curious about what was going to happend next, she was very interesting and we had a lot of things in common, the same likes, music, plans, etc.

After one or two months chatting we decided to meet in a shopping mall where there are cafes, restaurants, cinemas, etc. I didn't know a lot about her, which made me feel a bit afraid while i was going to our meeting, but in that moment i tried not to think about it, i just wanted to meet her and know how she was. When i arrived to the shopping centre she was there. She was not exactly how i had imagined, but i liked her as she was. That moment was very nice because we chated as if we were friends for a long time, which gave me security and made me feel safe.

Estefania

I am going to tell you the story about my first boyfriend. It was a great period of my life which I will never forget... I was finishing my tenth year of school, that is one before the last one, so I used to play basketball with my school team after the last class of the day. After two hours of being playing, I took the school bus to my home. One day, I realised that a guy used to get off the bus at the same place than me and I thought he realised about it as well.

Since that day I enjoyed more my trainning days, I knew that at the end of the afternoon I would be talking with that guy... during the time that we spent in the bus and then walking to home. I felt happy, but at the same time I felt sad because he was in his last year of school and I thought that we were not going to have time to share with each other. However, we started to talk during the break time and some days we met at the school restaurant, where we took our lunch and we really had funny moments.

Then, he invited me to the high school party and I was excited! I talked with my parents about that and they knew I was falling in love with that kind guy who always was taking care of me. The party was wonderful and that night we became boyfriend and girlfriend.

How did I met my exexex-girlfriend - Fernando

I was 16 years old when I met my first girlfriend. I was studying at highschool, which is in Campinas my home city, and she was 1 year younger than me with blond hair, nice body, beautiful smile and 1.60 of pure pleasure.
I was in love and I was going to do anything to have that girl, which never looked me before, when I thought the best way to know her is became friend of her group of friends, that wasn't so tough because we had some friends in common.
After met her I started to flame her passion and love with my romanticism, which is not so hard because I'm a romantic guy =), and when I got her attention for me I invited her to go to cinema with me, where is the best place to start a romance.
We went to watch a romantic comedy but the session was completely full so we watched a terror movie, which was good for me because she jumped into my arms afraid all those demons and me of course I took her into my arms and started a romance which I was dreaming .

Roberta

I stayed with my ex boyfriend for one year and a half. We first met four years ago, at our school, which we studied in the same class. In the begining I didn't pay much attention at him but he was in love with me, so he was always nice and kind.
He is a very intelligent person, who always trys to help. So, he did everything for me. He talked a lot with me and supported me due to the fact of I was living in a new city. I just moved for a new town and was living without my family, so he was a very important person for me. I just needed a real person who could be my friend. So, in a few months I was in love with him as well.
In the first months of our relationship everything was great. He always gave me flowers, which I think is so cute, and we studied together. He was very patient with me and was always trying to make me feel good. Actually he was like this in the whole time we were together, I was the bad person in the relationship..

Nowadays we are not together anymore but we are always in touch. He is a fantastic person who I want to have for a long time in my life.

Isabel

I was thirteen years old, he was the same age, and we were coming into the class where we had to share that whole course. The problem was that we were triying to get into the class at the same time and the door wasn't big enough for the two of us and our backpacks, wich was a problem. That was the best accident that I had that year. He was only thirteen, but he was a gentlemen. He said sorry and told me to get in first. I didn't expect that so my face turned red and got into the class. One of my best friends told me that she knew him because they were neighbourgs so, she was the one who introduced us to each other. We became friends as well, and spent the year with the rest of the girls and boys of the group, who finished notice that we had a different relation. I still remember the first time we went to watch a movie, and the moment when he tooked my hand wich was so tender and innocent.

Marie Nagura

I met my boyfriend in a shoe store, where he was working, on the first time. He was a shop assistance and I was just a customer. As soon as I saw him, I got to like him because I though his looking was ideal to me. Trying not to show my feeling and pretending to be cool, I asked him some questions about shoes and other things and had a small chat with him. Then I found that he was very nice, inside as well as outside. I eventually bought a pair of boots and left the shop. Because I couldn't forget him since then and wanted him to know even just my exsistence, I went there again the other day and took a big action. I gave him a paper, which I wrote my name, my text address and my phone number. I was too nervous to see even his face and ran away as soon as I gave the paper. As I was completely stranger to him, he was really surprised and it took some time for both of us to think about what was going on. But hopefully he texted me that day and finally I was able to be his girlfriend. This is all about how I met my boyfriend.

Tuesday, 13 March 2012

He-Man

When I was a kid, I always wanted to be a fireman. With so much adventure, fun and heroism involved, every kid wants that. We don't want to make money or be a master business man, we want to be super-heroes, and a famous soccer player would be nice though. We just want to have fun and chase after girls. Not to mention that you go full speed in that big red truck and the police cannot fine you. You're saving people's lives too, that is power fellas.

And then, came my grandmother and her old-school, ultra-protective advice. "Don't play with fire boy, otherwise you're gonna piss on your bed". Nobody wants to piss of in the pants or the bed. You become the mijao. And she destroyed my future succesfull career as a fireman.

Shan-Words that I remember

'If you really want something, you need to give all your efforts and tell yourself that it will be yours without doubts.' that's what my mum told me when I was small.

My mum is a great person. She has gone through many difficluties that I cannot even imagine.

When she was young, about high-school-age, there was the Chinese Revolution. Every youngster in the city had to leave school, go to the countryside and do farm work. It was really a tough work for those young people who were born and bred in the city and who had never done farm work ever. The most difficult thing is, they needed to get up at 5 o'clock every morning, keep working under the scorching sun till noon, and after eating some bread, they went back work again. When girls got there, almost everyone tried their best to avoid working. They pretended they were ill or took rest during the work when others didn't notice. Some girls even married to the local farmers so that they don't need to work anymore, but the fate for them was miserable: they would  never get the chance to go back to city again.

My mum, however, has made up her mind to go back to city and continue to stuy. So she worked very hard.
She was always the one who got up the earliest and worked till the latest. After a year, they could haveone person to go back to city, and because of the recommedation of the local farmers, my mum managed to go back and she was the only one who went back so early.

I asked her why she worked so hard. She said, 'I knew that going back was the only chance I had, so I told myslef to give all my effort and I had to be the one who went back earliest.'

Walter

Due to the word from my Dad,my life has changed.

I remembered i was a sociable person when i was in high scool ,i had a lot of friends and i was proud   of that.I did everything successfully with my friends and when i was in trouble my friends would help me overcome it.It all seems like i was a successful person and a little bit conceit.

One day my dad said he had something to tell me when i lived in my  "perfect"  life.He said "you seems like doing everything you want to do successfully but have you ever thought about it,you succeed is built upon the  foundation  of your friends.If you  lose all your friends or your freinds cheat you one day,what do you think your world will  be changed  like?You can't always accept the help from your friends,you need  independance ."

Yes, i realized   that i was wrong.My dad's wold has changed my life.Thanks for him and     i   am in the right way now.

Natasha-The biggest word that I remembered

As I was growing up I was the smartest girl in my family,everybody was surround me,my parents were buying me everything that I needed,In one word my personal fulfilment were above all but I was not spoilt child. As time was passing I impaired.I was not realy good student,they become so disappointed from my educational score in primary school, but were right because,I did not study a lot,and my teacher was always complaining on me.
Everything occurred very simply,one beautiful morning my father  said:''You need to turn up your bad signs'' I was so confused I didn't know what he is talking about,afterwords he explained to me that the the most significant thing that he wanted from me was to be a good student,and succeed good career in my future.He wanted to send me overseas to study at dental technician University.
Firstly I did not want because,I wanted to be a boxer and continue my career with that,but after I realised that I can be boxer in anytime,I can exercise in my free time,but University I can't I need many years to became a Dentist.
Consequently,I just agreed with that and look at me now I'm in Australia studying good,without any problems.
To sum up, In my brain I will always remember the expression from my father.

Diego !!! i love my country!!!

Colombia is not a poor country...

When i was in Colombia, i used to work for a charity. I worked during 6 months in which i learnt a lot of things that changed my mind, it helped me to change my point of view of poorness and also it helped me to reforce the love that i feel for my country, Colombia!

During the first week of my beginning i satarted to see a lot of phrases on the flyers and posts that we had and always i saw  a sentence that i won't forget in my whole life. Before i complete the sentence, i would like to say that Colombia could be one of the best countries in the world, we have one of the vastest and amazing divercity, beautiful fauna and flora, different kind of food every 2 hours in the different regions, different kinds of music that you can listen or dance as well if you want, the most beautiful people that always are waiting for you with a big smile and off course the most beautiful coasts!!!

For all the reasons above, i could say that this phrase could change in the future!

                                           ..., it is an unfair one!

Marcos

When I was a child my mom told me "Please Marcos my son, don't talk with strangers", since I did not obey this sentence, my life has been a torture. At the beginning I didn't realise about the real consequences about disobeying this important sentence. The first time I talked with a stranger was when I was 2 years old. I met one girl at the kinder garden, and we started a wonderful relationship, but obviously it wasn't long. At the age of 3 we moved to another country and I couldn't stop thinking about my love of 2 years old.

 After a while, when i was 15, it happened again! I started to talk with people at the highschool. Then, I made more and more friends and worse than that: I STARTED TO HAVE FUN. It began with " Come on, let's go out this friday" but it didn't finish there. Next weekend we went out on friday and Saturday and then also  on thursdays. It became really difficult to stay awake every day at the college, and when I say difficult I mean "really difficult". Then at the age of 18 I moved to another city to start the uni, and by this time I thought that it was going to be better for me, but guess what...I talked with another stranger and the parties started again... It has been 23 years since my mother tried to transfer me all her knowledge with this sentence, and also 23 years of suffering...So i would like to say to my mother, "Mom i wouldn't have disobeyed you".

Words I remember (Solene)

To be honest, I have really no inspiration about words that people said me and are, since, keeping in my mind. I don' t know if it's that anything that I heard wasn't enough worthy to be remembered , that I didn't pay enough attention or only that I m still not totally awake . I would rather say the second or the third option.
Anyway, if I can't remind me any saying words which really touched me, nevertheless, I can remind me some words that I read in some books and that really make me think.
"It s when you think to know all that you stop learning". This quote comes from a book of Pierre Bottero, a fantasy writter in one of his book Elana.
I really like this sentence because, in addition of the first meaning ; never think that you have nothing else to learn from people or from the life by herself, that means for me that you always have more to learn.
The world is full of opportunities to always discover new things. The only limit which could stop you is the one that you build by yourself.

Lucy - Words I Remember

My relationship with my parents has been a honest and very friendly relationship, I tell my parents almost everything that happens to me, I ask them anything I need to know, and they answer it sincerely.  My parents always have gave me pieces of advices due to the fact they wish that I was a wise and an independent women. There was one time my fater told me this words " Honey, you shouldn't trust anybody, even in your father". I was a little bit shoked, because my father is the best in the world for me, and they with my mom are my best friends. What my father suggested with those words was that I can't trust anybody, becouse at the end everybody makes you disapointed any time, with anything. 
my father's argument has been in my mind always; when I realise it, it's true everybidy at any time makes you disapointed I knew it through the course of my life.   

Roberta

It may sounds silly, but I've always heard people saying that we can have anything we really want to, anything we put an effort to get it. The first time I tried to get something that people thought impossible I really believed that I could get it and I got it!
Some years ago, my dream was to work at DisneyWorld. I needed to do some interviews and pay for the flight ticket and a lot of fees and taxes. It wasn't easy but I got it. I did an International College Program and worked and lived there for three months. Many people didn't believe that I could do this just by myself because I've always been very close to my family and shy. However it was easy, the best three months ever!
The same happened some months ago. I wanted to improve my English, so I decided to travel to study it in a English speaking country. I chose to come to Australia to stay for six months. My family and friends didn't believed again that I could do it just because I'm still very shy and they think I can't handle things by myself. And here I am! Three months later I think I'm doing pretty well. I'm studying and working, of course my father is helping me with some bills, but a part from that I do everything just by myself. I live with four korean people which makes everything a little more difficult since we have very different cultures, but I learn a lot with them, now I can realize how different people are, how cultures can be so different from each other...
I still have more three months here in Australia and maybe I will extend my Visa, I feel I still can learn lots of things and since I am on the other side of the world why not enjoy it as much as I can?
If I see it will be very important to me I am absolutely sure that I can do it!

Estefania

About three years ago I heard some words that I kept in my mind until now and I think these words are going to stay with me forever. It was a hard university year, I was completely busy with a lot of exams and homework and I didn't know how to organize my time. At the end of the year I was really worried about my grades and it made me feel ill.

All my family saw me tired and stressed, so one day, my mother talked seriously with me and told me something like that: "It's good that you are interested in getting excellent grades, however, the most important thing in the academic aspect is to know that you are really learning and improving with the time, besides, life is not only study, you could enjoy other things, sharing time with your family, your friends and doing what you like in your free time! If you organize your time and you know what you want, you will get it with effort and you will feel satisfied in all the life aspects" When I herad those words I felt shocked because I knew that since that moment my thought about my life was going to change.

I can say today that those words definetily changed my point of view about the objectives that I had to my life. Nowadays I know how to enjoy the nice things without forget my responsabilities

Vianny

When i was a child my mom always encourage me to study so hard and to be a good student, because she wanted that her children became a good professionals. Even though, she knew that we will have a lot of hurdles in our life to get that goal.

One day, when i couldn't achieve a good marks in an important exam in the school, she told me that "i have to work constantly for i want because sometimes happiness can't get it". It has been the best advise that my mom have given me. I think i have used it since i heard it, because sometimes i have had to work so hard and constantly in my goals to get it, but others i have been lucky and the destiny has helped me to get it easily.

Anyway, I've always remember that moment, because i think that whatever our parents say us is an excellent advice for our live, they have the enough aorguments to guide us on the road of life. 

isabel

Virgen de Loreto was the name of my primary school. I have great memories of those years, and specially of one teacher. He used to teach us Lenguage, English and Catalan. At that age i remember i wanted to be a journalist, so reading and writing were my hobbies. I never thought i was very good at writing, but i liked to use my imagination for writing different stories. Javier, wich was the name of the teacher, used to give us a lot of homework about writing stories, and reading books in every subject. I really enjoyed his classes.
He was my teacher the last three years on primary school, and i still remember something that he said to me one day when the class was finished, after he gave us the results of a Lenguage exam. 'You could be a great journalist'. I stared at him for a moment and then i smiled and said thanks. When i left the class i felt happy because i never mention my interest in journalism to him. I was very proud of myself, 'you're doing it well isabel' i thought. A pitty that mathes were crossed in the way, they were probbably the responsible that i quited, maybe i was too young to accept that if i wanted something, no matter how hard it was, there were no enough excuses in no trying. That was a lesson of life.   

Words that I (don't really) remember , Emma

During my last year of high School, I had to make important decisions for myself, but some people like my teachers, parents, friends tried to help me to find my way. In efect i didn't really know if I would like to go abroad as I dreamed to go years ago , start a licence of Sociology or an intense preparation of Litterature. It was a really difficult dilemma, do what i dreamed to and start well in the postgraduated progamms that could promise me a good future, but all my days would be define as 'work,work,eat,work,sleep, and that for 3years. You don't have time for your hobbies,but you learn a lot, you just don't have a lot of free time anymore.
My teachers told me that I had to go at this intense prepa , most of my friends agreed and my parents as well. But i knew that it wasn't what i really wanted .. I was really confused..So I went to see my best friend who knows me more than everyone , he listened to me explaining him all my doubts and he finally said to me : " All the choices you make define who you are. Choose the best for you, do what you like and love what you do. But still do your best, i don't want you to screw up!!! ahahaa "
We laught and i felt better. And finally i'm sure that i've made the best decision, that's why i'm here!! :)

Words I remember

The words that I'll remember until the end of my life are the words which my mom said me when I was a teenager.
That time I was a fool trying to enjoy my life on the maximum and by friends influence I started to drink, smoke and go out on nightlife a lot. Consequently I started to get low results on school, miss some classes of  sports that I used to practice. Suddendly my life was ruinning and I didn't notice that because of the happiness that I thought I was feeling but my mom with her sisth sense notice that and came talk to me.
She said "Life is not made only by happiness moments, sometimes you have to stop, maybe even be sad, and start to understand your life and get some lessons of that, this will bring you inteligence and made you a person with some content".

Nora - Words I Remember

In my first grade my class had to learn some mathematical things and our teacher wanted to test us. I was really unsafe and for this reason I cheated. After a few minutes my teacher stood right behind me and said 'Nora, I'm really upset. You have to now this by heart and I don't want you to cheat!'

I was really shy in my childhood and the worst that could happen to me was disappointing a person of respect. Up until then, this moment was the most embarrasing situation that ever happend to me.

After this happend I never dared to cheat again in school.

Wednesday, 7 March 2012

Lucy - The most Embarrasing moment in my Life

Those moments when you wished you had been invisible due to something embarrasing happened to you, which thankfully have been few in my life, although they were so much funny, they were the worse moments in my life.
I will talk about once that was the worse ( the much worse). It was in high school. I always studied in boys-girls school, once there was sort a conferece that everybody had to go, all teachers, all students, administrative people, we all were in the Auditorium my class was the last class to be there, therefore everybody was sat and we were walking to get our seats, when suddenly I really don't know what happened with my feet, but I fell down by the stairs (just like in the movies). I got to the center of the Auditorium rolling. Of course everybody saw me, and obviously everybody was laughing.
I standed up and I was laughing too, because I didn't want to show that I was embarrased. but in the deep I wanted to cry!!  

Shan-advice

It's not unusual that a husband still keeps in touch with his former wife becuase they'd been living together for 22 years, they have feeling for each other, they have memories of their life, they have their own children so their connection with each other is hard to break. In spite of all these, I think that the behaviour of him shows that he's not ready for you and wants to start a new life with you as their relationship is too close now and his behaviours might indicate his wife that she still have a chance.

However, your husband may be not aware of this. He's still living in the past and helping his former life is just a habbit. In my opinion, the best solusion is to talk to your husband as well as his ex-wife.

To your husband, you should make it clear that his condition now (still lives in his past) is not what you expected and this makes you uncomfortable. You should express your concern that you don't know he can come out of the shadow of his ex-wife or not.  You've sacrificed a lot to marry a man who had already have a 22-year marriage, I am sure that it was a tough decison and if you didn't really love him you won't marry him.I think you should let him know how much sacrifaction you'd made to marry him and how much you want a happy life with him.

To your husband ex-wife, you should told her that her frequent contact with your husband has a bad influence on your nomal life. You should warn her not to interrupt your life again.

Vianny

You should not be jealous about his ex-wife, but you have to be sure about his feelings and your relationship with the man, because it's important to know what do you want in the moment. I mean that you have to be clear and open with your partner, establish some conditions in the relationship to feel confortable and confident about it.

You also have to understand that he had some responsibilities that he got in the past, he still has to attend in the present, so, he is going to share with his first family despite they are not together all the time. But it doesn't mean that he has to be with them all the time with them. He has to know that he has two families at the same time, he has to distribut the time between both of them.

Finally i agree to accept that each person of the relationship has his/her space to share with other people, because you need opportunitie to share with other people that you love, it probably won't allow you are bored about the monotony of the relationship.

Estefania

I would recommend she talk with him and have a honest conversation where she could tell him all her feelings about the situation. By this way, she could know what she really feels and what she is going to do to feel herself better.

If he is going to be honest in that conversation, he is going to tell her what he really wants. The relationship is between both of them, therefore I consider they have to agree in the decision that they are going to make. I would suggest she think in herself and show him her own points of view. If he is interested in the relationship, he will probably change some things with his ex-wife and it would improve the atmosphere. On the other hand, if he thinks he is doing right things and he doesn't agree with changing what he is doing at the present time with his ex-wife, she must look for a quiet life where she could be without worries and unsafe

Anyway, I think she has to learn from the situation and enjoy the life. She knew the previous man status so she could think what was going to happen with his last relationship. In my opinion, she could do things that make her feel happy and she must look for antoher man if she wants to start again another relationship.

Walter

Why are they having this kind of relationship?Why are they keeping in touch so frequently?Why can't they forget each other and start their own new lives?I guess the reason  they divorced  wasn't because they didn't love each other,but because something forced them to divorce and they got no choice.

The advices I'd like to give them are:

1. I think they are an unfortune couple and they love each other,and it's also easy to understand why they did that even  they divorced ,but the man wasn't give much concern about his girlfriend feeling.What i really want to say is the man should take care of his girlfriends feeling.This is the responsibility of the man

2.This man should keep a propriate distance with his fomer wife it's not only for his girlfriend but also his fomer wife's patner.

Isabel

Well, the first question is, do you really trust him?, because I think that could be the problem. You relationship didn't start very well. He was married, you got in the middle of his relationship, so maybe you think he can do it again, why not? he did it once!. About his ex-wife, what do you want me to say? why don't you try to put yourself into her place?, be the friend of the woman who stole the father of her children?, of course she doesn't want your relationship to succeed. Maybe their marriage was over when you met him, but I think it's the normal reaction, she will never be your friend. Anyway they have two children in common, so they have to care about them "together", take decissions "together", and spend time "together", wich I think it's not the point here. The problem it's not the time he spends with his ex-wife and children, that was the backpacket he came with when you met him, and as you say, it's not the time he spends with you, soy maybe the real problem is "you". If you have started weighting all those things is because this is the begining of the end. Think about it.

Marcos

After reading your post I was in shock, how can you let them do that? Firstly, I would recommend you to be a little bit selfish and start thinking about yourself. With this I mean that despite the situation can be confusing, you should try to speak with your partner and, as long as you can, try to drive him to think about how it would be the oposite situation.

Moreover, if this doesn't work, you should try the second stage of the solution. This might be more dramatic, so, take a seat. Propose your partner to move to another city, state or country ( If you consider it necessary ). This should be useful in the way that you are going to separate them and, as you know, long distances makes everything colder.

If you are reading this paragraph is because none of the previous advices work. Don't worry about that, we need to start the third stage, are you ready?. You should start to make a new and very close friend to try to make him jealous. Doing this, you should have two different reactions:
-The first could be the easiest one, he realise about your situation and start changing his relationship.
-The second might be that you start feeling something for the new guy.

Finally, the last option that you can try if all of these advices didn't work, is to start thinking about leaving your partner and falling in love with  the new guy that you should have met if you had followed the THIRD stage.

I hope you could take advantage of my advices. I look forward to hearing about you.

;D

Nora

I can totally understand your problem with the situation, but it's not unusual to keep in touch with your former relationship. So maybe you should talk to him and tell him why you have such a big problem with his wife and him meeting each other. If you only think about it and just being jealous and petty he might think you're clinging too hard.
You have to show him, that his relationship is okay for you and you only don't want to lose him. I guess if you'll do that he is able to understand you and may have less contact to his former wife.

Emma

I can understand the situation can be confusing for you, in on hand it could mean that your husband is a very attentive person who doesn't let go people he loved for a long time, but in an other hand you seeing him keep in touch with his ex wife put you in a difficult situation. Did you talk to him about how you feel about it? I think that you need to be reassured , and my advice will be ; don't worry too much. At least he doesn't hide it from you!
Just be aware of what is going on, and try to keep an eye on their relationship.

I think that the situation had been difficult for him too. He took a huge decision that marked a turning point in his sentimental life. He chose you. It won't help your relationship to be jealous, after all he's sharing most of his time with you :) and if his ex wife found a new boyfriend, that's a good news ;) watch it!! Let the time do his work and you'll see that they will be less and less close as he's offering himself to you. He has to get used to new habits, new place to live, new life, but don't feel guilty, he was looking for it!!

Level 6/7 Task

Read this person's problem below.  Make some guesses about their past and then give them some advice.






Two years ago, my man left his 22-year marriage to be with me, but he told me he loved his former wife and would always want a friendship with her. I accepted that (I'm friends with my ex), but I'm bothered by the amount of contact they have. They do have two adult children and own property together. But, although she's living with a new partner, she sometimes wants to borrow his car, have him pick up the dogs, or drop off some paperwork. They phone about every other day, and not a week goes by without his stopping over -- occasionally for a family dinner. I get plenty of his time, energy and affection, and I know their relationship isn't romantic. The issue is split loyalty -- all the effort he's putting into remaining "loving friends" with a woman who'd love to see our relationship fail. Am I being petty and jealous? It feels like she's clinging hard -- and so is he.