You should not be jealous about his ex-wife, but you have to be sure about his feelings and your relationship with the man, because it's important to know what do you want in the moment. I mean that you have to be clear and open with your partner, establish some conditions in the relationship to feel confortable and confident about it.
You also have to understand that he had some responsibilities that he got in the past, he still has to attend in the present, so, he is going to share with his first family despite they are not together all the time. But it doesn't mean that he has to be with them all the time with them. He has to know that he has two families at the same time, he has to distribut the time between both of them.
Finally i agree to accept that each person of the relationship has his/her space to share with other people, because you need opportunitie to share with other people that you love, it probably won't allow you are bored about the monotony of the relationship.
Marlon: It is true the husband needs to spend time with his family, but how much of that should be with his ex? Is the ex family too? Does his new partner have to accept this? Or are only the children his family? Surely his time should be based on caring for the children, not seeing his ex.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the fact that he has to care of the children, but not of his ex wife of course. One word : communication!!
ReplyDeleteEmma*
DeleteI think it is important to spend time with his "two families" and if she can be honest and clear with him, it would be better for both of them.
ReplyDeleteMarcos:
ReplyDeleteVianny, you should think about starting to write in some of these magazines which have an advice section! You are so good!!
Isabel
ReplyDeleteBut how can you measure the time he spends with you, and the time he spends with his ex-wife and children? So difficult, probably this girl has that problem, too much free time.....to think!